Getting into conversations with others is how you learn and grow and build meaningful, trustworthy relationships. How you have these conversations makes a big difference.
Breaking Up With Your Comfort Zone and Getting Into Action
Things that are new and stretch you beyond your perceived limits are in and of themselves, uncomfortable. These goals and pursuits may even induce anxiety or terror depending on how far outside of your comfort zone you’re traveling.
When striving to make significant changes in your life, it’s important to create structures, processes, and habits that will help move you through the fear and unease of being outside your comfort zone. These structures will maintain that you are taking action toward being the new person you are striving to be, even in the face of discomfort.
I Burned All My To-Do Lists and Found Freedom
Growth Doesn’t Look the Way You Think
When you think about your future and all the things you want it to include, you likely forget about all the peaks and valleys involved in growth. It’s easy to see where we are now and the destination, and then draw a straight line. Growth is not linear. But even more than that, growth itself is not a destination: it’s a process (and a practice).
The Path To Success Is Being, Not Doing
If I asked you to think about what success is, you might tell me what it looks like.
“Financial security, a nice car, a family…”
So I want to challenge you to consider what success feels like.
Maybe it’s confidence, happiness, being in touch with your spirituality…
The difference between doing and being is the biggest factor in success. I’ve used my BE-DO-HAVE model with countless clients and helped them shift into feeling their success.
This post covers how success is actually obtained.
Coaching: What Is the “Product” Being Sold?
5 Tips for Conquering Overwhelm
You’re overwhelmed because you’re confused.
When your mind isn’t confused, when tasks and priorities are clear, there’s no overwhelm.
When your mind is focused, overwhelm is absent.
The problem is that stress ensues as we start to feel overwhelmed. And the more overwhelmed you feel, the more stress you create for yourself.
This is a vicious cycle. One that we’ve all felt at some point in time or another.
Your Survival Mechanism Keeps You Safe, And Prevents You From Thriving
“Keep it secret. Keep it safe.”
In that famous line from “The Fellowship of the Ring”, Gandalf strictly advises Frodo to hide the Ring of Power and not mention its existence in order to keep it safe from enemies.
Isn’t this how many of us live our lives? Keeping our own power hidden in order to stay safe from failure or embarrassment.
The irony is that if you truly understood this power, you’d realize there is no point in hiding it from the world.
Catching My Self Sabotage
One way our survival mechanism keeps us in our comfort zone is by sabotaging our own efforts to achieve more.
Any time we go about up-leveling our game, we will run directly into our internal saboteurs. We will attempt to sabotage our own big game or next level. This is simply the survival mechanism at work trying to keep us safe.
Surpass Your “Upper Limit Problem” and Create Being
We all have the opportunity to be many things in this world, but unless we are working in alignment with our most authentic dreams and goals, a job title and a business license isn’t going to be enough.
You stand just before your Upper Limit embodying exactly who you are in this moment. All of the accumulation of action and progress you have made up until this point. You are the living manifestation of all the beliefs that you have about yourself and the world around you.
The Other Side of Your Comfort Zone
Most people are living a default life – you can predict where they’ll be in a few years by looking at how things have been going for them leading up to now.
In many cases, this is difficult for people to recognize due to the fact that they’ve been running on autopilot for so long.
This is why coaches prioritize empowering clients to challenge the status quo, or, in this case, the inertia of the default life.
The Problem With “Enough”—What To Do When You’re Stuck in the Future
I am someone who looks to the future as inspiration. My goals and dreams inspire me to continue to work harder, but in this daydream state, I failed to acknowledge how many of my goals and dreams I’d already accomplished.
A desk in an apartment triggered immense gratitude and allowed me to see that I’ve already “made” it.