THE CLEARING
Reflections on Being and Becoming
Your Survival Mechanism Keeps You Safe, And Prevents You From Thriving
“Keep it secret. Keep it safe.”
In that famous line from “The Fellowship of the Ring”, Gandalf strictly advises Frodo to hide the Ring of Power and not mention its existence in order to keep it safe from enemies.
Isn’t this how many of us live our lives? Keeping our own power hidden in order to stay safe from failure or embarrassment.
The irony is that if you truly understood this power, you’d realize there is no point in hiding it from the world.
Catching My Self Sabotage
One way our survival mechanism keeps us in our comfort zone is by sabotaging our own efforts to achieve more.
Any time we go about up-leveling our game, we will run directly into our internal saboteurs. We will attempt to sabotage our own big game or next level. This is simply the survival mechanism at work trying to keep us safe.
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March 2026
1
- Apr 10, 2026 You Can't Think Your Way Out of a Thinking Problem Apr 10, 2026
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September 2025
2
- Oct 29, 2025 The Trouble with Mindfulness Oct 29, 2025
- Oct 21, 2025 Perfection vs. Excellence Oct 21, 2025
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June 2025
1
- Jul 8, 2025 Embracing the Learner to Navigate Rapid Change Jul 8, 2025
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May 2025
2
- Jun 23, 2025 Noticing How We Notice: Why Second-Order Learning Changes Everything Jun 23, 2025
- Jun 12, 2025 Why Mountain Silence Heals Jun 12, 2025
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October 2024
2
- Nov 20, 2024 Navigating the Holiday Season: Embracing Challenges and Opportunities Nov 20, 2024
- Nov 5, 2024 True, Kind, and Necessary – A Path to Authentic Connection Nov 5, 2024
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August 2024
1
- Sep 18, 2024 Looking in the Mirror: Stop Seeing Your Old Self Sep 18, 2024
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July 2024
5
- Aug 26, 2024 Stop Fighting for Your Limitations: Unlocking the Power Within Aug 26, 2024
- Aug 19, 2024 The Search for Fulfillment: Lessons from a Chance Encounter Aug 19, 2024
- Aug 9, 2024 Embracing Summer’s Final Act: A Reflection on Transition Aug 9, 2024
- Aug 8, 2024 The Trap of "Fixing" What's Not Broken Aug 8, 2024
- Aug 5, 2024 Breaking Free of Emotional Hijacking: Take Control of Your Reactions Aug 5, 2024
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January 2024
1
- Feb 6, 2024 A Month of Focus: Overcome Overwhelm and Enhance Concentration Feb 6, 2024
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July 2023
1
- Aug 4, 2023 My August Digital Detox Aug 4, 2023
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April 2023
2
- May 25, 2023 Living Joyfully: The Power of an Authentic Life May 25, 2023
- May 10, 2023 How A Retreat In Brazil Helped Me Get Unstuck And Reconnect With My Purpose May 10, 2023
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March 2023
2
- Apr 25, 2023 How to Overcome Fear and Take Action Toward Your Goals Apr 25, 2023
- Apr 12, 2023 Why Your To-Do Lists Are Stopping You From Getting Anything Done Apr 12, 2023
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January 2023
2
- Feb 27, 2023 What's Missing From Your Conversations? Feb 27, 2023
- Feb 8, 2023 “Life Coaching is a Grift” Feb 8, 2023
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December 2022
2
- Jan 25, 2023 You Can't Outperform Your Environment Jan 25, 2023
- Jan 4, 2023 Breaking Up With Your Comfort Zone and Getting Into Action Jan 4, 2023
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November 2022
2
- Dec 20, 2022 End-of-Year Survival Guide: Tips to Celebrate the Year and Prepare for the Next Dec 20, 2022
- Dec 7, 2022 Impossible Goals: How To Achieve the Unthinkable Dec 7, 2022
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October 2022
3
- Nov 23, 2022 I Burned All My To-Do Lists and Found Freedom Nov 23, 2022
- Nov 18, 2022 HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS Nov 18, 2022
- Nov 9, 2022 Growth Doesn’t Look the Way You Think Nov 9, 2022
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September 2022
2
- Oct 25, 2022 The Things You Can Control & Change: The Circles That Determine Highly Effective People Oct 25, 2022
- Oct 12, 2022 The Path To Success Is Being, Not Doing Oct 12, 2022
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August 2022
2
- Sep 28, 2022 How Digital Detox Changed My Life Sep 28, 2022
- Sep 13, 2022 Breaking Free from Familiar & Familiar Roles Sep 13, 2022
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July 2022
2
- Aug 30, 2022 That Summer Feeling: What To Do After Vacation So You Stay Relaxed Aug 30, 2022
- Aug 17, 2022 Coaching: What Is the “Product” Being Sold? Aug 17, 2022
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June 2022
2
- Jul 20, 2022 5 Tips for Conquering Overwhelm Jul 20, 2022
- Jul 6, 2022 Your Survival Mechanism Keeps You Safe, And Prevents You From Thriving Jul 6, 2022
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May 2022
2
- Jun 22, 2022 Catching My Self Sabotage Jun 22, 2022
- Jun 8, 2022 Surpass Your “Upper Limit Problem” and Create Being Jun 8, 2022
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April 2022
2
- May 25, 2022 The Other Side of Your Comfort Zone May 25, 2022
- May 11, 2022 The Problem With “Enough”—What To Do When You’re Stuck in the Future May 11, 2022
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March 2022
1
- Apr 12, 2022 Worrier - Warrior Apr 12, 2022
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January 2022
1
- Feb 17, 2022 The Other Side of the Challenge Feb 17, 2022
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June 2021
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- Jul 15, 2021 Creating Structures That Give You Freedom Jul 15, 2021
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May 2021
4
- Jun 30, 2021 The Pygmalion Effect And You Jun 30, 2021
- Jun 24, 2021 The Mirror Exercise - How to Be Your Own Coach Jun 24, 2021
- Jun 17, 2021 Chop Wood, Carry Water... Jun 17, 2021
- Jun 10, 2021 The Power of the Promise Jun 10, 2021
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April 2021
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- May 27, 2021 When Pigs Fly - The Power of "Not Yet" May 27, 2021
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December 2020
2
- Jan 21, 2021 How Effortless Happens Jan 21, 2021
- Jan 11, 2021 Reflecting on a Year Gone By Jan 11, 2021
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October 2020
1
- Nov 19, 2020 When Confidence Becomes Arrogance Nov 19, 2020
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September 2020
2
- Oct 22, 2020 The Mirror to Your Soul Oct 22, 2020
- Oct 15, 2020 The Hidden Language of “Should” Oct 15, 2020
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August 2020
1
- Sep 1, 2020 The Importance of Play Sep 1, 2020
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July 2020
2
- Aug 28, 2020 In-between Days: Managing in the Midst of Uncertainty Aug 28, 2020
- Aug 18, 2020 Re-creating My 2020 Vision Aug 18, 2020
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October 2019
1
- Nov 30, 2019 Creating My 2020 Vision Nov 30, 2019
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February 2019
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- Mar 28, 2019 What's Stopping You from Getting into Action? Mar 28, 2019
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June 2018
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- Jul 21, 2018 Asking for What You Need: True, Kind, and Necessary Jul 21, 2018