THE CLEARING

Reflections on Being and Becoming

A Month of Focus: Overcome Overwhelm and Enhance Concentration
Self-care, Coaching David Perry Self-care, Coaching David Perry

A Month of Focus: Overcome Overwhelm and Enhance Concentration

Overwhelm often stems from our actions and choices. Despite knowing better, we sometimes fall into patterns that lead us right back to that overwhelmed state. Recognizing this is the first step toward change. Overwhelm is not a state we must accept; it's a habit we can break. By identifying the root causes of our overwhelm, we embark on a journey towards a more focused and productive self.

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How to Overcome Fear and Take Action Toward Your Goals
Coaching, Self-care, Comfort Zone David Perry Coaching, Self-care, Comfort Zone David Perry

How to Overcome Fear and Take Action Toward Your Goals

If we have big goals we’re going for, fear can easily hold us back from taking the action on those. It’s a powerful emotion that stops us from stepping out of our comfort zone, taking needed risks, and learning new things.

We must learn to identify our fears and the ways they control or limit us. Overcoming fear is about recognizing the emotion without giving in to its desire to control our behavior. This is how we can get unstuck and start moving forward with our life.

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Breaking Up With Your Comfort Zone and Getting Into Action
Coaching, Self-care, Comfort Zone David Perry Coaching, Self-care, Comfort Zone David Perry

Breaking Up With Your Comfort Zone and Getting Into Action

Things that are new and stretch you beyond your perceived limits are in and of themselves, uncomfortable. These goals and pursuits may even induce anxiety or terror depending on how far outside of your comfort zone you’re traveling.

When striving to make significant changes in your life, it’s important to create structures, processes, and habits that will help move you through the fear and unease of being outside your comfort zone. These structures will maintain that you are taking action toward being the new person you are striving to be, even in the face of discomfort.

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Growth Doesn’t Look the Way You Think
Coaching, Self-care David Perry Coaching, Self-care David Perry

Growth Doesn’t Look the Way You Think

When you think about your future and all the things you want it to include, you likely forget about all the peaks and valleys involved in growth. It’s easy to see where we are now and the destination, and then draw a straight line. Growth is not linear. But even more than that, growth itself is not a destination: it’s a process (and a practice).

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The Things You Can Control & Change: The Circles That Determine Highly Effective People
Coaching, Self-care David Perry Coaching, Self-care David Perry

The Things You Can Control & Change: The Circles That Determine Highly Effective People

How much time do you spend trying to control things you cannot control? Maybe it’s your child, the speed of the washing machine, or the rush hour traffic.

There’s an idea that I discovered called the circle of influence. The idea behind this is that there are certain things that are within our control, things that we can influence.

And then there is the circle of concern. The circle of control is full of excuses, victimization, and blame. This circle has things we cannot influence, but we often still concern ourselves with.

The proactive approach to life is to spend more time focusing on the things we can change and influence.

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The Path To Success Is Being, Not Doing
Coaching, Self-care David Perry Coaching, Self-care David Perry

The Path To Success Is Being, Not Doing

If I asked you to think about what success is, you might tell me what it looks like.

“Financial security, a nice car, a family…”

So I want to challenge you to consider what success feels like.

Maybe it’s confidence, happiness, being in touch with your spirituality…

The difference between doing and being is the biggest factor in success. I’ve used my BE-DO-HAVE model with countless clients and helped them shift into feeling their success.

This post covers how success is actually obtained.

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5 Tips for Conquering Overwhelm
Coaching, Self-care David Perry Coaching, Self-care David Perry

5 Tips for Conquering Overwhelm

You’re overwhelmed because you’re confused.

When your mind isn’t confused, when tasks and priorities are clear, there’s no overwhelm.

When your mind is focused, overwhelm is absent.

The problem is that stress ensues as we start to feel overwhelmed. And the more overwhelmed you feel, the more stress you create for yourself.

This is a vicious cycle. One that we’ve all felt at some point in time or another.

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Your Survival Mechanism Keeps You Safe, And Prevents You From Thriving
Coaching David Perry Coaching David Perry

Your Survival Mechanism Keeps You Safe, And Prevents You From Thriving

“Keep it secret. Keep it safe.”


In that famous line from “The Fellowship of the Ring”, Gandalf strictly advises Frodo to hide the Ring of Power and not mention its existence in order to keep it safe from enemies.

Isn’t this how many of us live our lives? Keeping our own power hidden in order to stay safe from failure or embarrassment.

The irony is that if you truly understood this power, you’d realize there is no point in hiding it from the world.

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Catching My Self Sabotage
Coaching, Business David Perry Coaching, Business David Perry

Catching My Self Sabotage

One way our survival mechanism keeps us in our comfort zone is by sabotaging our own efforts to achieve more.

Any time we go about up-leveling our game, we will run directly into our internal saboteurs. We will attempt to sabotage our own big game or next level. This is simply the survival mechanism at work trying to keep us safe.

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Surpass Your “Upper Limit Problem” and Create Being
Coaching David Perry Coaching David Perry

Surpass Your “Upper Limit Problem” and Create Being

We all have the opportunity to be many things in this world, but unless we are working in alignment with our most authentic dreams and goals, a job title and a business license isn’t going to be enough.

You stand just before your Upper Limit embodying exactly who you are in this moment. All of the accumulation of action and progress you have made up until this point. You are the living manifestation of all the beliefs that you have about yourself and the world around you.

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The Other Side of Your Comfort Zone
Coaching David Perry Coaching David Perry

The Other Side of Your Comfort Zone

Most people are living a default life – you can predict where they’ll be in a few years by looking at how things have been going for them leading up to now.

In many cases, this is difficult for people to recognize due to the fact that they’ve been running on autopilot for so long.

This is why coaches prioritize empowering clients to challenge the status quo, or, in this case, the inertia of the default life.

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