Getting into conversations with others is how you learn and grow and build meaningful, trustworthy relationships. How you have these conversations makes a big difference.
Impossible Goals: How To Achieve the Unthinkable
I Burned All My To-Do Lists and Found Freedom
Growth Doesn’t Look the Way You Think
When you think about your future and all the things you want it to include, you likely forget about all the peaks and valleys involved in growth. It’s easy to see where we are now and the destination, and then draw a straight line. Growth is not linear. But even more than that, growth itself is not a destination: it’s a process (and a practice).
The Things You Can Control & Change: The Circles That Determine Highly Effective People
How much time do you spend trying to control things you cannot control? Maybe it’s your child, the speed of the washing machine, or the rush hour traffic.
There’s an idea that I discovered called the circle of influence. The idea behind this is that there are certain things that are within our control, things that we can influence.
And then there is the circle of concern. The circle of control is full of excuses, victimization, and blame. This circle has things we cannot influence, but we often still concern ourselves with.
The proactive approach to life is to spend more time focusing on the things we can change and influence.
Breaking Free from Familiar & Familiar Roles
Coaching: What Is the “Product” Being Sold?
5 Tips for Conquering Overwhelm
You’re overwhelmed because you’re confused.
When your mind isn’t confused, when tasks and priorities are clear, there’s no overwhelm.
When your mind is focused, overwhelm is absent.
The problem is that stress ensues as we start to feel overwhelmed. And the more overwhelmed you feel, the more stress you create for yourself.
This is a vicious cycle. One that we’ve all felt at some point in time or another.
Your Survival Mechanism Keeps You Safe, And Prevents You From Thriving
“Keep it secret. Keep it safe.”
In that famous line from “The Fellowship of the Ring”, Gandalf strictly advises Frodo to hide the Ring of Power and not mention its existence in order to keep it safe from enemies.
Isn’t this how many of us live our lives? Keeping our own power hidden in order to stay safe from failure or embarrassment.
The irony is that if you truly understood this power, you’d realize there is no point in hiding it from the world.
Catching My Self Sabotage
One way our survival mechanism keeps us in our comfort zone is by sabotaging our own efforts to achieve more.
Any time we go about up-leveling our game, we will run directly into our internal saboteurs. We will attempt to sabotage our own big game or next level. This is simply the survival mechanism at work trying to keep us safe.
Surpass Your “Upper Limit Problem” and Create Being
We all have the opportunity to be many things in this world, but unless we are working in alignment with our most authentic dreams and goals, a job title and a business license isn’t going to be enough.
You stand just before your Upper Limit embodying exactly who you are in this moment. All of the accumulation of action and progress you have made up until this point. You are the living manifestation of all the beliefs that you have about yourself and the world around you.
The Other Side of Your Comfort Zone
Most people are living a default life – you can predict where they’ll be in a few years by looking at how things have been going for them leading up to now.
In many cases, this is difficult for people to recognize due to the fact that they’ve been running on autopilot for so long.
This is why coaches prioritize empowering clients to challenge the status quo, or, in this case, the inertia of the default life.
The Problem With “Enough”—What To Do When You’re Stuck in the Future
I am someone who looks to the future as inspiration. My goals and dreams inspire me to continue to work harder, but in this daydream state, I failed to acknowledge how many of my goals and dreams I’d already accomplished.
A desk in an apartment triggered immense gratitude and allowed me to see that I’ve already “made” it.