Overwhelm often stems from our actions and choices. Despite knowing better, we sometimes fall into patterns that lead us right back to that overwhelmed state. Recognizing this is the first step toward change. Overwhelm is not a state we must accept; it's a habit we can break. By identifying the root causes of our overwhelm, we embark on a journey towards a more focused and productive self.
On August 1st I started a digital detox.
What that means is I’m limiting or eliminating from my daily routine news, podcasts, and social media.
There is an epidemic of distraction occurring in our society right now and this has a big impact on our ability to live the life we truly want and dream of.
The impact of turning off all those inputs you’re hooked into all the time - even for a short time - cannot be overemphasized.
Have you ever pondered about the beauty and complexity of living life honestly and authentically?
The truth is, most of us wander through life under the impression we're embracing our genuine selves. But what I’ve noticed is most of us are like beautifully wrapped packages, layered with defenses and emotional strategies that keep us snug and secure.
We tend to be expert curators of our own image, masters of concealing our true selves beneath layers of protection, stowed away in the shadows.
Our self-crafted defenses, while comforting, keep us from basking in the glory of our true nature. Life yearns to experience our unique, unfiltered expression - with all its radiant colors, its bruises, and even its blemishes.
Imagine escaping to a retreat in the Brazilian rainforest to recharge, reconnect with your purpose, and break free from life's daily grind.
Last month I went on a retreat at Terraluminous, an ecovillage in the Atlantic Rainforest of Brazil, and that’s exactly what occurred.
When your mind isn’t confused, when tasks and priorities are clear, there’s no overwhelm.
When your mind is focused, overwhelm is absent.
The problem is that stress ensues as we start to feel overwhelmed. And the more overwhelmed you feel, the more stress you create for yourself.
This is a vicious cycle. One that we’ve all felt at some point in time or another.
In that famous line from “The Fellowship of the Ring”, Gandalf strictly advises Frodo to hide the Ring of Power and not mention its existence in order to keep it safe from enemies.
Isn’t this how many of us live our lives? Keeping our own power hidden in order to stay safe from failure or embarrassment.
The irony is that if you truly understood this power, you’d realize there is no point in hiding it from the world.
One way our survival mechanism keeps us in our comfort zone is by sabotaging our own efforts to achieve more.
Any time we go about up-leveling our game, we will run directly into our internal saboteurs. We will attempt to sabotage our own big game or next level. This is simply the survival mechanism at work trying to keep us safe.
We all have the opportunity to be many things in this world, but unless we are working in alignment with our most authentic dreams and goals, a job title and a business license isn’t going to be enough.
You stand just before your Upper Limit embodying exactly who you are in this moment. All of the accumulation of action and progress you have made up until this point. You are the living manifestation of all the beliefs that you have about yourself and the world around you.
Most people are living a default life – you can predict where they’ll be in a few years by looking at how things have been going for them leading up to now.
In many cases, this is difficult for people to recognize due to the fact that they’ve been running on autopilot for so long.
This is why coaches prioritize empowering clients to challenge the status quo, or, in this case, the inertia of the default life.
I am someone who looks to the future as inspiration. My goals and dreams inspire me to continue to work harder, but in this daydream state, I failed to acknowledge how many of my goals and dreams I’d already accomplished.
A desk in an apartment triggered immense gratitude and allowed me to see that I’ve already “made” it.
Japanese Samurai warriors had a particular practice of “dying before going into battle” which allowed them to be some of the fiercest warriors there ever were.
As an Ontological Coach, I’m interested in your way of being and in uncovering how your way of being-in-the-world is limiting what is ultimately possible for you.
Imagine a Japanese Samurai warrior that couldn’t get out of his own head, kept thinking about all the ways he could screw up, or attempted to think through every move in order to make sure it was “right” before executing. He wouldn’t survive long in battle.
I don't like to commit too early, I never set an alarm, and I am very resistant to structure in my work. I like to go with the flow and see where things will take me based on how I'm feeling in the moment.
All you business owners and entrepreneurs out there know this does NOT work well when you're running a business.
I've been looking for a system to keep me focused and consistent in my work habits. I finally found something that's working for me and I’d like to share with you.
Highly-skilled individuals are often reluctant to express openly what they know they’re really good at. Even when they get that they’re talented at something, they hold back or downplay their knowledge. There are a lot of reasons people find this difficult and one way it gets expressed is worry about appearing arrogant or egotistical.
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